choice.
from which our very lives depend.
And here we are serious intent, to investigate all the cases before us, because we know what we decide will be essential for us, for our future.
In times like these, more than ever it is important have its own personality, so well discern what is good for us, and what is not, because it is a choice that only affects us, and we alone, then we are the real arbiters.
But what is there behind this?
In life, our choices really matter?
And most importantly, we have a personality that is really all ours?
Without influences of any kind?
I think not.
And in this post, I will try to explain it.
Each of us has from birth (ie, excluding the elements of nature genetics) the potential to be in fact, unique.
different from anyone else. This
at birth, in fact.
The genetic basis for organizations (only biologically) more advanced (like humans), it is very crucial, if not immediately followed by something else.
Genetics only gives you "the mold" , so to speak, how you will be.
Nothing.
Next, take over other factors. Let's see what
.
education, for example.
That is imposed almost exclusively on the rest, forged in a surprising way.
Yet, we could say that education the first 4-5 years of life (quantity determining your nose, not the result of a study) has little importance in defining the personality of the individual.
Yes, because if we pay attention, the first 4-5 years of life are "equal" (from the educational point of view) for all.
What are, in fact, the precepts that a child of that age group feels that educate parents receive?
not do this, do that one, be careful that this thing done so, this other there, and so on.
The child, in other words, during this period of life, receive general information on the right way to behave in a variety circumstances of life.
This type of education is the same for all children (of course we start from the premise that children are talking about are the ones who have the fortune and the opportunity to grow in a healthy family and to take care of them, We therefore exclude from our investigation the most dramatic situations, unfortunately).
From all this, I would assume that the personality of each of us can not be formed in our first 4-5 years of life, as the information that, in educational terms, we receive from the outside during this period, almost same for all, then where, and what we could have the opportunity to differentiate ourselves, to be just us and no other?
The trouble comes later.
I think as young as 6 years, because that is the age when they begin primary school, and the child finds himself immersed in a whole new world for him, which often put into question the precepts of education (the so-called Super -I, we would say in Freudian terms) that the child has received from parents during the previous period.
Here, then, that the child will start to feel a range of theories, speeches, by the people who attend, from her sixth year of life.
hear the words of his companions, with whom he will discuss in an already more mature, telling, even in simplified terms, experience, and receiving in return the story of an experience than its own.
listen to the teachers who will tell you (again) how to behave, but in a way that is not always in complete harmony ( and the word "total" purchases in this period of life, an absolute meaning ) with the parents.
short, everything done will be a period of confrontation, evidence of verification.
And baby, put in these conditions will begin to ponder.
to consider all hypotheses, to understand what is the best way to behave.
On this specific issue, I use the method I suggested mom, or method B has mentioned the teacher at school?
In this way, the child begins to make his first choices, the most decisive in the formation of his personality.
And here we come to the second point of our analysis.
The personality, in fact.
really exists, or is it just an illusion?
am inclined to the latter.
Yes, because everyone believes, and would be different from all others (myself, I strongly believe that individualism and creativity of people think so), yet not so to the end.
From the sixth year of life, in which we find ourselves in the conditions I described above, here is that everything we do, we will choose, will inevitably be influenced by the stimuli we receive from outside.
if we choose to see or not a particular film, maybe because we've heard good or bad, and from what we heard, we have drawn a conclusion.
What drove us to one particular direction.
Same thing for value judgments.
If a 6 year old boy is put in front of a film, without which no one has said anything about that movie before you let them see, then, very likely, that child will make a very personal opinion about the movie at the end of the vision.
But iff is done to that child see the movie after giving notice of their idea (if the dad liked it or not), then the child, after watching, will make a case that will be affected by what has been said before it.
In short, the child will not be entirely free to judge.
And 'This is what I mean by freedom.
And for shaping the character independently, without any conditioning. Because each
of us has a personality that is hers alone, and no one else (even minimally), it is necessary. from the sixth year of life, we are put in a position to see the film (I'm talking about film as a metaphor, but I refer to life in general) without having any knowledge of the opinions of others.
But, otherwise, we just hear a simple "beautiful" or "bad" to be affected.
Throughout this account, no matter, as I said, the first 4-5 years of life, because those are the same for everyone so it is not taken into account to discuss the formation of personality.
That comes later, and everyone has it must be influenced by others.
None of us is himself the way down.
Unless, of course, do not watch the movie of his life completely alone.
But then where do the comparisons, experiences?
If each of us has to grow on its own to actually be himself, how do you know other people, to have friends, etc.?
And here comes a particularly worthy of note that, until now, I never considered: humanity.
Each of us is a man among men, and that's what counts.
We can not be completely ourselves because we do not want, but also because we should not, be.
what use would figure things out for themselves, only to not be influenced by anyone?
Nothing, because to do that, you lose everything that is beautiful in life.
The theory I set out came to my mind a few days ago, while I thought about how parents can influence the choices of their children.
What I wrote (and before that thought) based on intuitive thinking, why do not I'm sure a teacher, so I have not done any detailed study, and scientifically acceptable, on children in order to advance sound theory.
That's why I am the first not to believe all of what I wrote.
We also grow our own, without receiving any influence from anyone, so we can say one day that we are just ourselves, within us that no one else.
We can do it, but this will not serve anything other than to fuel our already innate human selfishness.
will enable us to think only of ourselves, our privileges that come from having a personality that is our 100%, and on which no one else can claim anything.
But if we look around, the first thing we see are other people like us.
People of all kinds, of all cultural expressions.
People of any ethnicity.
E, interacting with them, we realize how essential it is for all of us grow and improve their listening to others, trying to understand them.
E 'this is the real, the only man wins.
Breakthrough able to go beyond any scientific discovery and technological innovation. In addition
any historical period, beyond any geographic boundary.
How far we are still a couple of different eyes from ours, we want to tell their story.
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